Did you know –
I fit 3 out of the 4 above. When I was a little kid, I was abused by a very close family member. It was a very traumatic time in my life. I blacked it out a lot during my teenage years by acting out. I did tons of things that I am not proud of. It wasn’t until this year that I truly understood why I had all the issues I did. Everything I did from my teenage years and on into my adult years all stemmed from the trauma that was caused by the sexual abuse I suffered.
My marriage suffered more than anything. While I was dealing with everything going on with me, my husband had no clue what was going on with me. I did not know how to tell him because I myself wasn’t sure. Then I received When a Woman You Love was Abused in the mail. As I read the stories, I sat realizing that each one was me. I saw myself on each page. I cried as I read it, and I was totally thankful that somebody took the time to let our spouses know how to help us go through something like that.
A Husband’s Guide to Helping Her Overcome Childhood Sexual Molestation
The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports that 80 percent of childhood abuse victims later suffer from at least one abuse-induced psychological disorder. It’s proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow women into adulthood. Yet few men are prepared to deal with those effects, even when their own wife is the one who is suffering. And their wife’s suffering becomes their own suffering as their needs aren’t being met by a wife who is powerless to control her inner turmoil.
Author, pastor, and survivor Dawn Scott Jones candidly shares her own abuse experience to help husbands understand the varied emotions, fears, distorted thoughts, and triggers that hold their wives captive. In practical and accessible language, Jones explains the stages of the healing journey (processing denial, asking for help, grieving, expressing anger, learning to forgive, and finding resolution). Building on that knowledge, Jones then moves to an honest discussion of what husbands can do to help. Whether it’s creating a healing environment, understanding the need for control, building trust, or even just praying for healing, a husband plays an active role in helping his wife survive and thrive despite her past abuse.
Offering hope for a healthy marriage relationship, When a Woman You Love Was Abused answers the questions men have and offers the advice they need to help their wives finally find peace.
For over twenty years God has graciously used Dawn to touch the lives of people through her affecting personal testimony, her humor, and her writing. Dawn’s past challenges have deepened and enriched her ministry; enabling her to truly understand and relate to what others are going through.
Dawn is an Ordained Minister with the Assemblies of God. She has served in various capacities including Executive Team Pastor, Small Groups Pastor, and Woman’s Ministry Director. Dawn travels Nation-wide speaking, training and consulting.
Find out more about Dawn Scott at http://www.dawnjones.org/.
In coordination with the launch of their fall releases, Kregel will be hosting a live webcast event on September 20 at 8 PM EDT featuring authors Kim Ketola (Cradle My Heart), Teske Drake (Hope for Today, Promises for Tomorrow), and Dawn Scott Jones (When a Woman You Love Was Abused). The webcast will allow women to come together to share their struggles and fears in order to move toward healing and hope. Women will able to support one another and discuss shared experiences in a non-threatening, open and loving environment.
Cat Hoort of Kregel says, “We are seeking to provide safe means for Christian women to be vulnerable with each other, to seek help and guidance from authors and counselors, and to find encouragement from those who have shared similar experiences. Our hope is that the Women Redeemed webcast will become a forum for hurting women as well as for those who can help. Kim, Teske, and Dawn are all survivors and their stories will surely inspire and equip other women to move toward healing and hope.”
To register for the event, just click the banner to the right or here.
I received a copy of this book in order to write my review. All opinions listed are my own.