Last night and all day yesterday, my daughter and I celebrated her best friend’s birthday. My kitchen pretty much stayed messy all day. For me, that is pretty rare. I am one of those raving lunatic mothers who cannot stand for anything to be out of place. But something happened to me when I went to Type-A. I learned a valuable lesson about messy lives, and it kind of stuck with me. I’m trying to learn to be an imperfect mom and just enjoy my life.
For too long, all I have done is spend my free time trying to keep everything neat and clean, “just in case” I have company. I have finally come to the realization that doing this is killing the free and creative person in me.
I am at the point in my life that I am tired of trying to make everything seem so perfect. I am totally missing out on fun for the sake of a clean house. It’s really amazing what a different perspective can do for you.
When Amber was giving the opening key note talk, I sat mesmerized as I listened to her talk about living by the unexpected. For me — that is SO hard.
I am a list and organizer kind of girl.
It’s hard for me to just go with the flow. I freak out in the grocery store if I don’t have a list. I panic if people mess with my schedule, or even alter my menu at home (yes — you never see my freak outs, but I have them).
After hearing her talk, I came home to a different feeling. I walked through the door of my home, and I don’t feel so scheduled any more. I don’t feel like everything has to look “just so” in order to have fun.
So how did I let go yesterday?
I let my daughter and her bestie make a homemade ice cream cake. I did not supervise. I did not stand over them demanding that they clean the kitchen. In fact, after a while — I joined them and we made homemade pasta yesterday —
and homemade alfredo sauce.
and played board games to celebrate her special day.
Yes — sometimes it is totally OK to just let your guard down and be imperfect. I promise — it won’t kill you.
In fact, you just might find that in that moment of imperfectness — you find you are able to breathe again.
So — momma — I give you permission to just let go and have fun for a while. That load of laundry and sink full of dishes will still be there later. Enjoy life while you can.
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